Monica Valdivia Aguilar, M.A.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist – LMFT 41352
Clinical Director of the Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Program
Director of the Young Women’s Program
Clinical Supervisor for Associate Marriage and Family Therapists


I have been working with adolescents, women and their families since 1999. Using individual, group, family, and couple therapy, I help clients grow, heal, connect, and become empowered. I use a relational, collaborative, strength- and skills-based approach.  I enjoy providing presentations and workshops to young women, colleges, and organizations. All of my services are available in English and/or Spanish.


•  Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
•  Couple Therapy
•  Identifying and developing inner strengths to cope with life’s challenges
•  Helping families establish healthy relationships and positive communication and address cross-generational issues
•  Understanding and managing depression and anxiety
•  Facilitating recovery from trauma
•  Working with body image and relationship with food
•  Helping teens and young women emotionally prepare for the transitions, opportunities, and challenges of high school and college life
•  Assisting couples- non-married, newly engaged, or married – in transforming power struggles into a place of connection in an empathically attuned safe space
•  Cultural diversity -working with women dealing with the intersections of career, culture, and family
•  Bi-cultural and bi-lingual in Spanish

Additional Information about my Specialties:

I have significant experience working with college-age young adults, graduate students, and early career professionals.  Using a relational, collaborative and strength-based approach, I integrate CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Relational Cultural Theory, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills) to help clients navigate through the challenges this stage of life can bring.  I also help clients find new tools and techniques for creating effective ways to manage depression and anxiety.

Clinical Director of the Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Program: 

I’ve worked with many teens and young women to help them develop skill sets for managing big emotions.  Working in our comprehensive DBT program, I provide individual DBT and phone coaching to support skills use.  I also facilitate the Young Women’s DBT skills group, teaching the four modules of DBT (distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness and mindfulness).   Additionally, I provide parent coaching to support parents of teens and young adults.

Director of the Young Women’s Program:

As the Director of the Young Women’s Program, I have the privilege to work with young women as they navigate through the many transitions, opportunities, and challenges of college, graduate school, and the early stages of their careers.  My goal is to empower young women to develop resiliency and self-compassion and to provide them with the tools for managing this phase of life.


Clinical Supervisor for Associate Marriage and Family Therapists:

As Clinical Supervisor of the Institute’s Associate Marriage and Family Therapists, I have the honor of walking alongside and assisting our next generation of therapists with training and supervision.  I have a passion for supporting new therapists in their growth and development as we work collaboratively to help create positive change for our clients.

Advanced Training:

•  AAMFT and CAMFT Certified Supervisor
•  Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Foundational and Multiple Advanced Trainings
•  Certified Imago Relationship Therapist for Couple Therapy

Prior Experience:

• College mental health counseling services at Woodbury University – counseling undergraduate and graduate students, helping first-generation college students to succeed
• Nonprofit community work:

• Valley Family Center
• Center for Interpersonal Development
• Child and Family Center
• School-based and clinic-based services


• Master of Arts, Psychology, emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy, Phillips Graduate Institute
• Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, University of La Verne

Mission:  My mission is to empower women and girls to reconnect with their inner voices, honor their own cultural and diverse world experiences, heal from emotional wounds and pain, and develop healthy ways of communicating and connecting with others.


Phone: 626-585-8075 ext. 112