The Social World of Girls: A Resource Guide

These are some resources for parents dealing with girls’ changing social world. Clicking on the books will take you to their ordering pages on

For Parents of Elementary School Children

Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children by Michael Thompson, Ph.D. and Catherine O’Neill Grace.

Good Friends Are Hard to Find: Help Your Child Find, Make, and Keep Friends by Fred Frankel, Ph.D.

Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems by Michael Thompson, Ph.D., Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., with Catherine O’Neill Grace.

You Can’t Say You Can’t Play by Vivian Gussin Paley.

For Parents of Teens

Girlfighting: Betrayal and Rejection among Girls by Lyn Mikel Brown.

Girl Wars : 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying by Cheryl Dellasega and Charisse Nixon.

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons.

Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy by Rachel Simmons.

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence by Rosalind Wiseman.

Internet Resources for Adults

BAM!: Go to the section called “My Life” to read about helpful solutions. The CDC sponsors this site for older elementary and middle school youth. Great to look at with your child.

National Center for Victims of Crime: Click on the Teen Victim Project for resources for teens–includes info on harassment, hate crimes, gang violence, date rape, stalking, and other crimes affecting teens.

Institute for Girls’ Development: Social World of Girls article series

Resources For Children & Pre-Teens

Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain.

Cliques, Phonies, & Other Baloney by Trevor Romain.

How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and Other Meanies: A Book That Takes the Nuisance Out of Name Calling and Other Nonsense by Kate Cohen-Posey.

The Care and Keeping of Friends by the American Girl Library.

My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig.

Say Something by Peggy Moss.

Simon’s Hook: A Story About Teases and Put-downs by Karen Gedig Burnett.

Stick Up for Yourself: Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power & Positive Self-Esteem (Revised & Updated Edition) by Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D., Lev Raphael, Ph.D., and Pamela Espeland.

The Girl’s Friendship Journal: A Guide to Relationshps by Cheryl Dellasega.


Resources for Teens

Respect: A Girl’s Guide to Getting Respect & Dealing When Your Line Is Crossed by Courtney Macavinta.

Stop Bullying Now: Information, skills, games, and animated webisodes to help teens deal. Sponsored by the US Department of Health and Human Services.

BAM!: Go to the section called “My Life” to read about helpful solutions. The CDC sponsors this site for older elementary and middle school youth. For Girls Only: NEW WEBSITE  COMING SOON! Check out these resources. There are sections for elementary, middle school, and high school girls. Find your age group and see what’s up. There is a cool section for teens called “What’s Up with Friends?”.



PLEASE NOTE: Nothing in what you find here should be construed as medical advice pertinent to any individual. As is true with all written materials, and especially information found on the internet, you must be the judge of what appears valid and useful for yourself. Please take up any questions you might have regarding the content of this web site with your psychotherapist or physician

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